Do this when you are feeling sad

Allah SWT has said clearly that, if you are given and bestowed something, it is not a guarantee that, that item will remain with you.

How is my relationship with Allah?

what I want to look at today is when we are sad what exactly do we need to do?
firstly ask yourself is my relationship with the maker the owner of happiness good? is it intact? is it proper? for example if I am a person who has no link with Allah, no link with the Quran, no link with Allah SWT

This life on earth is absolutely temporary, it is not going to last long we in actual fact are here to be tested, it is a testing ground, evidence regarding the fact that this is a testing ground is, that none of us has what we want in this world rather we only get what Allah has chosen for us, so he tests us with health matters, financial matters, family matters, so many other different issues different types of loss things do not happen according to what or according to how we want them to happen because Allah is telling you to hang on, this is just a test we want to see how you react will this bring you closer to us? will it make you realize that it is temporary, absolutely temporary, people we found are very sad today and some news comes to them within a split second they can become the happiest people on earth and vice versa, we've seen it happen.

So this is Allah he is the one who gives you glad tidings you become so excited after you were so sad and you can become so sad after you believed you had everything on earth, this is Allah's plan do not lose focus it is Allah, however like I said when you are sad the first question you have to ask yourself how is my relationship with Allah, that relationship is connected to your Salah, primarily your five daily prayers do you read them with the enthusiasm we are not even talking about regularity because that is supposed to be the case anyway but we're talking about enthusiasm, do you look forward to the prayer? do you realize what you are doing when you are reading or fulfilling the five daily prayers? sit for a moment and think it will snatch your sadness, it will withdraw, it will combat the sadness you are feeling just by thinking for a moment what am I doing who am I putting my head on the ground for here who is it the one who made me the one who owns my happiness the one who's in control and ultimately the one I'm going to go back to.

It is powerful if you sit and ponder over it that alone will help you to remove the sadness in your life because even if everything is going against your liking you are assured that it is going according to the plan of Allah.

Nothing goes according to someone else's plan it is Allah's plan so it makes you happy to say oh Allah this is your plan for me then ya Allah just make it easy for me to go through I'm not going to compete with you we can never compete with Allah but we call out to him he gives us the energy he gives us various means to try and help ourselves and he expects us to use what he has given us to help ourselves and on top of that we would be asking Allah to remove the sadness, even the prophet SAW was told not to be sad let me recite to you a portion of the verse.

Verse - we know that their statements have saddened you their statements are making you sad we know that but we want to give you comfort by telling you they do not lie to you they know you are truthful they know you are the prophet of Allah they are just denying it out of arrogance don't let the arrogant make you sad.

If your link with Allah is intact or is powerful or you are developing it every day nothing should make you sad you should be saying Subhanallah (that is the praise of Allah) alhamdulillah (all praise is due to Allah) Allahu akbar (Allah is the greatest) those statements should be removing the sadness from your heart, if only you uttered them correctly because Allah says,

various translations of that verse one of them is when Allah says indeed those who believe and they are granted comfort by the remembrance of Allah SWT for indeed the remembrance of Allah comforts the heart.

Do you want comfort in your heart you are sad? Remember Allah how do you remember Allah? I'd like to go through this and spend a few moments because it's important many of us like I say human beings feel sad but a believer is given the remedy to that sadness, one of them is develop your salah the quality of it take your time when you're making wudu, take your time go to Allah SAW by standing facing the qibla and when you say Allahu akbar you should know what you are saying I am saying Allah is the greatest he is my lord and you are praising him declaring his praise and you are concentrating in your prayer you have taken your time you feel rejuvenated you feel complete.

Secondly, take your time when it comes to the Quran, which is the word of Allah. Allah addresses all mankind saying all O people indeed a reminder or a warning has come to you from your maker and a cure for the diseases of the heart one of them is sadness,  

So you want to overcome it remember the Quran is the remedy how many of us take our time to listen carefully, wallahi this is a remedy, take our time to happily gladly open the Quran that is the word of Allah every morning before we leave the home and read even five minutes of your time so happy and we read Arabic we try to perfect it we try to improve as the days pass we read melodiously.

Did you know that there are two ways of reading the Quran one is just to read it as though you're reading a book and the other is to read it to try and put into it some melody for the sake of Allah.

There is nobody on earth who has no issue, remember that it's just the way they are managing and coping is different, you think you have a problem wallahi there are people sitting right near you in the same masjid that perhaps have problems a hundred times the size of yours, but you won't realize it they have a link with Allah, they know this world is temporary, that brings me to another point once you've developed your link with the Quran and you try to read and you try to understand and you try to put things forth and you develop a link with Allah and your remembrance of Allah is in order your salah is in order you need to be able to appreciate what Allah has given you that he has not given others that is one way of combating your sadness. the hadith of the prophet SAW says look at those who have less than you who are lower than you.

In the Quran, Allah speaks about problems that almost break the backs of people, when the prophet SAW had a problem it was not connected to him or his Dunya, it was connected to the deen (the religion)

That's why I said you ask yourself a question is this matter related to the deen or the Dunya the matter I'm sad about is if it's connected to the deen then yes it is a matter I should be sad about I combat it in a similar way but if it is connected to the Dunya or this life then I need to know number one life is temporary days do not last.

Nobody seated here has not suffered a loss, everybody has they've dealt with it differently they've suffered at different levels Allah, tests you according to your level in one narration the hadith says Allah tests you according to how much he loves you when he loves you more he tests you more that's a hadith, it's because when you have a problem and an issue it is human nature that when you have a problem you start looking for solutions and a believer will look for solutions by getting close to Allah so when Allah wants you to become very close to him he gives you a bigger problem because he knows if you didn't have this one major issue in your life perhaps you wouldn't even be bothered about reading salah you wouldn't even be bothered about calling out to Allah SWT.

so Allah says you know what to think about those who have less so you can appreciate what you do have, when you want to be sad then you look for sadness even when there's happiness glaring in your face, you need to know this why then do we say I'm sad so the whole world will be sad who is going to thank Allah? you cannot say I am sad because Allah has taken away something material from me you have to say: alhamdulillah I praise Allah upon all conditions I seek Allah's protection from one condition and that is the condition of those who shall be cast into hellfire besides that alhamdulillah something happens alhamdulillah all conditions may Allah another very important way of combating sadness my beloved brothers and sisters is to look at the creatures of Allah look at the trees look at the animals look at the greenery look at you when you're breathing the air consider what you are breathing take a look at the sunset the sunrise says indeed in the creation of the heavens and the earth and in the rotation of the night and the day are signs for those with intellect. remember this there are signs these signs, yes they show you the oneness of Allah the closeness of that you have to Allah SWT the greatness of Allah but they also alleviate your suffering there are many signs this is why when a person is stressed, sometimes those counselors will tell you to go and take a look at the greenery to sit and watch you see the water you see the horses you see a beautiful scene. what does it do to you it de-stresses you for a disbeliever it's just the scenery it's a creator creation of Allah for us it is the greatness of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, don't be sad really these days are not permanent they are temporary the only time you should be sad is when you have drifted away from Allah SWT

Sadness is something that you can do much about and the evidence of it is when Allah, do not be sad at this and do not be sad at that, how can you be sad when you know Allah is with you? how can you be sad when you know Allah is with you no matter what they're going to try it's only by the permission of Allah, that they will be able to achieve if Allah wants them to and it's going to be better for you either way

when goodness happens to a true believer he is thankful so it's better for him, it's good for him how do you thank allah when you have happy days, this is one way of combating sadness that may be in your path when you have happy days get close to allah don't wait for the sad days to quickly turn to allah, although that is okay but it's not good enough the hadith says get close to allah in days of ease and you find in days of difficulty allah will be very close to you you won't even feel you will carry on so the hadith says when sadness overtakes a believer, when something bad you know means something harmful hurtful something that is perhaps not to your liking overtakes a believer he is patient he bears sabr he knows the reward with allah and so therefore it is better for him this is why his affairs are amazing goodness happens he is thankful bad happens he is patient but he's never upset with allah he's never angry he's always smiling he's always remembering allah subhan allah al hamdu lillah these are the words these are the actions that will alleviate the sadness that we feel sometimes as human beings because a true believer is always taught the method of earning closeness to allah subhanahu wa ta'ala by which all your sadness will be taken away may allah SWT grant us happiness in this dunya as well as in the next.

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